St. David's Wettenhall

Wedding FAQ's


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Frequently asked questions
Q: Can we get married at St David's Wettenhall?
A: Yes, we'd love you to get married here. In order to get married in a Church of England church, you either have to be on the church's Electoral Roll, or you have to have a special connection with the chosen church, such as your parents being married there for example.

Q: How do I get onto St David's electoral roll?
A: There are 2 ways. The first is to live in the parish. The second is to be a regular worshipper here. (By the way, the church electoral roll is nothing to do with Government or elections - it's a list of our members.)

Q: What do you mean by regular worshipper?
A: At St David's, we do understand that you may live some way away, and may have other commitments at weekends e.g. work shifts. We do not expect you to attend every Sunday! However, we would like you to attend a church service at St David's once a month for six months prior to your wedding day, if at all possible. (One of you can attend if you cannot come along together) This gives you a chance to get to know the church and the people here; many couples like to bring their parents sometimes so they can see the church too. It also gives us a chance to get to know you, and answer any questions you may have. Many of our wedding couples really enjoy coming to church here!
We have a book to sign at the back of the church which we ask you to sign whenever you attend a service. We do this simply as a record that you have worshipped here, to support your entry onto the electoral roll.

Q: What's the first step now?
A: First of all, we need to agree the date. As soon as you have a date in mind, please contact Rev'd Keith Hine on 01829732491
email:kehine@btinternet.com
to see if the church is free on that date. Once this is agreed, then it will be in our diary and you can start to plan your day.

Q: What happens next?
A: We will send you an application form for you to fill in, giving your full names, contact details etc. We will also send you additional information.

Q: Can we take photos?
A: Yes of course, though we do ask that there is no flash photography during the service. There will be plenty of opportunity to take photos after the service. If you wish to make a video recording of the service, this will be fine but we are obliged by law to make a performing rights charge of 69 for this.
Q: Flowers?
A: Yes, you are welcome to bring and arrange flowers; alternatively we can recommend local flower arrangers. One of the many advantages of St David's is that the church is very pretty inside without needing a lot of flowers - why not come and have a look and then decide If you do choose to have a pedestal flower arrangement, you are of course welcome to take it away after the ceremony to the reception.

Q: Is there anything else we have to do to make the marriage legal?
A: No. The Vicar has the same legal powers as the Registrar does at a Registry Office, and you will receive a copy of your wedding certificate immediately after the service. You do need to tell the Vicar if either of you has been married before, and if either of you is not a UK citizen - this is not usually a problem!

Q: What about music for the service?
A: We have a church organist who plays at all our services. The hymns of course are chosen by you; we are happy to make suggestions if you wish. The organist will also play appropriate music before and after the service (for the entry of the bride, and the procession out afterwards), and during the signing of the register; please let the Vicar or the organist know if you have any particular requests.
Sometimes, wedding couples like to invite a singer or musician to perform while the register is being signed. Please talk to the Vicar if you would like to arrange this.


Q: Confetti?
A: Yes, we are pleased for you to have confetti if you would like. However, we do ask that your guests throw it as you leave the church grounds (by the gate) rather than in and around the church itself.

Q: Anything else I need to know?
A: We understand that it is traditional for the bride to arrive a few minutes late. We would ask that this really is only a few minutes - your guests may have travelled a long way and made an effort to get here on time - and anything longer than a few minutes causes bridegrooms great stress! Our experience is that the whole day runs much more smoothly and happily if the bride arrives in church no more than 5 minutes late. (Don't forget to allow time for photos to be taken of the bride's arrival if you wish).

Q: Do we need an interview with the Vicar?
A: Yes. At St David's, the Vicar likes to meet you early on - this doesn't have to be a formal meeting. Usually we can have a quick chat after a service. This allows us to check we have all the details correct, such as names and dates. About 3 months before the wedding, the Vicar will contact you to arrange a meeting. At this meeting, we will discuss the marriage service and answer any questions you may have about it. We will also talk about your hopes and expectations for your marriage. I might even mention God!
And finally, we will meet at the wedding rehearsal. This will be arranged to suit you - it is often the day before the wedding. We will run through the marriage service, including where you stand and sit during the ceremony. Do feel free to bring family and close friends to the rehearsal - the best man, the bridesmaids and your parents often like to see where they will be sitting too!

Q: Where can I find out more?
A:
1. Ask the Vicar. Please contact Rev'd Keith Hine 01829 732491
email:kehine@btinternet.com

2.Website - Take a look at Church of England website for weddings click on the purple tab marked 'Weddings, Baptisms and Funerals', and then click on Read More under the 'Weddings' box in the middle of the page.
3.Whenever possible, you will be invited to a Marriage Preparation Day sometime in the 12 months before your wedding. These days have proved very popular with wedding couples; they include light-hearted activities and discussions. No charge is made.

And yes, we have a toilet at the church!